Sunday, August 29, 2010

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO TURN MISTAKES AND FAILURES TO SUCCESS AND FORTUNE? Here are the 7 Effective Ways to Deal Succesfully With Mistakes and Failures in Life!




Everybody makes mistakes, but not everybody knows how to take advantage of mistakes. Many people have that negative fear of failure and mistakes. They run away from them. They tell lies to cover them. They blame others for their mistakes. Yet, great discoveries and inventions have come about through mistakes and errors. The light bulb, for example, came after 10,000 mistakes by the Great Thomas Alva Edison. So will yours--whether it be a cure for a disease, a new technology for energy efficiency and power generation, or just about anything that will make life a little bit better.

By: LOPE COLUMNA
KABBALIST EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR
COLUMNA MESSIANIC RESEARCH CENTER


REMEMBER, YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Take a few minutes today to carefully observe yourself and the people around you.  Watch them and see how they commit mistakes. You will realize that no one is exempt from mistakes. Yet, when you look at yourself, you always tend to be critical. You think of yourself as a failure, instead of just having failed in one task. Great discoveries have come about through trial and error. Some great inventions have gone through mistakes or accidents. So will yours--whether it be a cure for a disease, a new technology for power generation, or a better use of computers.

The THREE (3) CATEGORIES OF PEOPLE, IN RELATION TO MISTAKES AND FAILURES 

There are 3 kinds of people dealing with mistakes and failures: 

1. The one who is not afraid of making and unmaking mistakes. This person continually takes advantage of his mistakes by learning from one mistake, eliminate it; then go on doing something. If again a new mistake arises, he learns from it, eliminate it. The cycle repeats continually. 

2. The one who makes mistakes, but don't learn the lessons from them, and go on repeating those mistakes. 

3. The 3rd one is someone who does not make mistake. This is because he or she is afraid of making mistakes, and therefore does nothing. The only person who does not make mistakes is the one doing nothing. Conversely, if you are making mistakes, it only shows that you are doing something.


The SEVEN (7) EFFECTIVE WAYS TO SUCCESSFULLY DEAL WITH MISTAKES

1. DON'T BE AFRAID OF MISTAKES AND FAILURES. Otherwise, You Will Regret Later

It is by failure that we learn and profit. Learn from your failures and move on. One example is in using the computer. You will never really learn using the computer without making mistakes. Reading books and manuals about computers will not make a computer wizard out of you. But pressing the wrong key will tell you your mistake and that mistake will, in the long run, be a great learning experience.


The fear of making mistakes is dangerous. It can lead us to inaction and finally to destruction. One famous author said, "Even if you are on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there."  

The case of a true Christian given one talent by Christ in Matthew 25 shows the dangerous fear of failures. It could make us wicked and lead us to the lake of fire.
  • "Then the man who had received one talent also approached and said, 'Master, I know you. You're a difficult man, reaping where you haven't sown and gathering where you haven't scattered seed.  (Mat 25:24)
  • So I was afraid and went off and hid your talent in the ground. Look, you have what is yours.'  (Mat 25:25) 
The above servant is afraid to invest the talents that God entrusted him because of the fear of failure and mistakes. Omissions are sins, and must come into judgment. Laziness and idleness make way for wickedness and evil thoughts. An empty house or building attracts unclean spirits to dwell there. When men sleep, the enemy sows tares.

Something is better than nothing; if we fail to show our courage to take risk in investing our God-given talents, at least we should not fail to allow others to use them in good business and in honest endeavors. The talent was God's money entrusted to each one of us, not only to keep, but to improve, in more ways than one. In the day of Judgment and accounting, the wicked and uncreative servants will be left without excuse, and those who now rely upon their own reasoning, God will use their own human reasoning, and their fear, to judge them to the lake of fire! 
  • But the fearful, and unbelieving ... shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.  (Rev 21:8 KJV)
2.  DO SOMETHING 

Charles Kettering once said, "You will never  stub your toe standing still. The faster you go, the more chance there is of stabbing your toe, but the more you stab your toe,  the more chance you have of getting somewhere." 


So it is back to the basic decision to act. To do something. Psychologists say that action, any kind of action--is also a tremendous cure for depression, even if it is no more than walking around the block. If you have always wanted to write, then write something--a short article or poem. Write as if it is going to be published in a book or newspaper. If you think you are a good tennis or basketball player, join some tournament and see how you fare with others. You may not win the top prize but think how much you will learn just by trying. Franklin  Roosevelt once said, "It is common sense  to  take method  and  try it.  If it fails, admit it frankly. But above all, try something. It is the only way you will realize  your God-given potentials."

3. MOVE BEYOND MISTAKES AND FAILURES. You Can Make and Unmake Mistakes

If something fails, our first thought is to hide it, and get rid of all the evidence, and to wash our hands as quickly as possible. This is not the right way to deal with mistakes and failures. Rather than abandon the failure immediately, we should move beyond it only after we spend time studying them from all angles. You may discover new techniques and opportunities. 

  • For seven times doth the righteous fall and rise, And the wicked stumble in evil. (Pro 24:16 YLT) 
The above Bible verse (Proverbs 24:16) shows a person doing or trying something (with good intention, of course), that fails or commits mistakes and learns the lessons, rise up again, up to seven times! And this kind of person is called RIGHTEOUS! 

PROVERBS 24:16 versus MATTHEW 25:25. The DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE RIGHTEOUS AND THE WICKED is The Difference Between Action With Mistakes Vs Inaction Without Mistakes

Notice carefully the contrast here. The RIGHTEOUS CHRISTIAN is neither afraid of, nor discouraged by his many mistakes and failures in life. He learned from his mistakes and use that lessons to improve and continue on with his Godly way of life. 

The other Christian (in Matthew 25:24-25), did not take any action because he was afraid of mistakes and failures. Because of inaction, this person did not make mistakes, thereby depriving himself of the valuable lessons that can be derived from making mistakes. This person did not fail, nor did he succeed. This is one of the worst thing that could happen to a person: stunted growth, or zero growth at all! And this is totally unacceptable to the GOD OF GROWTH AND INCREASE! He was therefore labeled as wicked and now destined to destruction. 

Knowing this fact, we should also give allowance and some tolerance to the mistakes of others. As people make mistakes, we should not despise them, or immediately punish them. Instead, we can observe and also extract lessons from them.

4.  LEARN FROM THE MISTAKES OF OTHERS

All human beings make mistakes. But it does not mean that all of us, human beings, have to go with the same mistakes. The main purpose why mistakes are allowed in us, is to teach us lessons of life. As long as we learn the lessons, whether the mistakes are committed by yourself or by others, the objective is done. There's no need for you to suffer the consequences of mistakes committed by others. We can learn from each other's mistakes. 


The WISDOM IN MISTAKES

There is wisdom in mistakes, if we only learn from them. Example: there are so many people whose lives had been destroyed by improper use of sex and illegal drugs. Then why should you make the same mistake? We should learn from our own mistakes as early as possible, because it is a very valuable source of training and information. We can also learn from the mistakes of others. Human history is full of the various forms of mistakes and failures. There is no need to repeat those mistakes and consequent sufferings, if we only learn from those mistakes.

Next time, understand clearly why you or other people make mistakes and try to avoid them. Making mistakes and correcting them push you toward the road to expertise and excellence.

5. DON'T ALLOW MISTAKES TO BECOME DEFEAT!

To be successful, we need to look at failure as a motivator. We could view our mistakes as the stepping-stones or the steps of a ladder. We should step on the stones to go upward, not downward. We must use our mistakes and the mistakes of others to the development and advancement of Godly character in us.


We must face the reality that failure is very much an integral part of our human existence. It is a major process necessary to build God's character and attitude in us. We must therefore know how to properly accept failure in our lives. Take what you learn and move on. Don't allow failure to become defeat, otherwise, you would not succeed.

6. CONVERT MISTAKES AND FAILURES INTO SUCCESS

"Success is 99 percent failure." – Soichiro Honda 

"I have not failed. I have merely found 10,000 ways that won't work." – Thomas Edison.

Use the same approach as the athletes. There is always another race, another game, another chance, another time, another opportunity. Apply it in your business, in your school studies, in your job, in your Christian life. Learn from your mistakes, correct them, then go back and try again. Based on what you learn from the previous mistake, try a different or modified approach. Build up your spiritual muscle. Put more depth on your team. It's OK to fail so long as you learn and move forward with the newfound knowledge.

Some of the greatest failures and mistakes have led to success and good fortune. For example, the failure of certain glue to stick permanently, as its inventor had hoped, led to the creation of 3M's popular post-it-note pads.

On the other hand, fear of failure can lead to failure itself. A US company invented the popular Compact Disc (CD ) technology. But because of fear that this product might fail because consumers might not give up audio tapes and records, Japan was able to copy the CD technology and beat the US with their own technology.

Motivation, not defeat, is the key to using failure as a benefit to your physical and spiritual advantage. You have to stand back on your feet again. Just as success can lead to failure, failure can also lead to success, provided we have the right perception and attitude. Failure can also mean a "CLOSED DOOR" to your present career or business, and an OPEN DOOR to a new opportunity or direction in life. This is why we suggest the celebration of mistakes.

7.  MAKE GOD YOUR LIFE AND BUSINESS PARTNER, AND ALLOW HIM TO DIRECT YOUR PATH 


Here it is listed last, but actually this God-involvement technique is the FIRST AND THE LAST of the techniques listed in this important article. This technique and principle must encompass everything to guarantee success in all of our undertakings in life.
  • LORD, I know that the way of man is not in himself: it is not in man who walks to direct his steps.  (Jer 10:23 HNV)
We should acknowledge the sovereignty, dominion, and control of the Divine Providence in our lives. The freedom of Freewill or Free Choice that GOD gives to each one of us is subject to the FREEWILL of GOD Himself. GOD has His overall Master Plan for Mankind and the Universe. This Master Plan of God cannot be altered by the freewill given to man. If a person or nation uses his freewill to resist the Freewill of GOD, then that person or nation will be destroyed, and GOD's Will and Master Plan will stay. 

We cannot of ourselves do any thing for our own success, unless God work with us and command deliverance for us; for it is not in man that walketh to direct his steps, though he seems in his walking to be perfectly at liberty and to choose his own way. 


We must all accept this vital truth to our lives, and mix faith with it, that we are not at our own disposal, but under a divine direction. The events in our lives are often overruled so as to be quite contrary to our intention and expectation. We are not masters of our own way, nor can we think that every thing should be according to our mind; we must therefore refer ourselves to God and acquiesce in his will.

  • A man's steps are established by the LORD, and He takes pleasure in his way.  Though he falls, he will not be overwhelmed, because the LORD holds his hand.  (Psa 37:23-24)
Such a man as is blessed of the Lord; the steps that he takes in life are ordered by the Lord, both with respect to things temporal and spiritual. His good conduct and successes in life are not of himself, they are blessings of the Lord, who directs and keeps the feet of His people, and inclines them to take such steps, and pursue such methods, which he succeeds and prospers.

WHEN WE MAKE MISTAKES WE SHOULD ASK GOD TO CORRECT US, TO SHOW US THE LESSONS THAT WE SHOULD LEARN

  • LORD, correct me, but in measure: not in your anger, lest you bring me to nothing.  (Jer 10:24 HNV)
If we insist on our own human reasoning and decisions, that is, if we fail to ask GOD for correction and guidance, then GOD will leave us alone. Then we are destroyed in the end.
  • There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.  (Pro 14:12)
  • There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it is the way of death.  (Pro 16:25)
CONCLUSION

The principles discussed in this article may take some time to getting used to. I hope that you agree that in order to succeed, you must accept – even promote – your mistakes. You must celebrate that you have with you a great teacher – like no other, the teacher that is your own mistakes, and the mistakes of others.

Remember your school days. Students make a lot of mistakes and failures in their studies and assignments. But we don't quit, but rather continue on. That's part of the training – to learn humility and accept correction. Very soon students are going to graduate, some on the top with honors. And only through a lot of mistakes!




NOTE: Bible verses used in this article is based on the Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB). If not, the quoted translation is indicated.

Copyright 2010, 2016 © Lope Columna

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST MISTAKE IN LIFE? WHAT IS YOUR VIEW OF MISTAKES? CAN YOU CELEBRATE YOUR MISTAKES? Can you easily give your answer?



One of the greatest obstacles before we reach our goals in  life is our fear of committing mistakes.  Nevertheless, we must  realize that  success is achieved  after we make mistakes, several mistakes.


By: LOPE COLUMNA
MESSIANIC KABBALIST-ENGINEER
COLUMNA MESSIANIC RESEARCH CENTER




INTRODUCTION

In the 2010 Miss Universe beauty contest, the Philippine candidate, Miss Venus Raj, was asked the question: WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE... and what have you done to correct it? This seems to be a hard question to answer by most people.

Miss Philippines did not directly answer the question because it is her belief that MISTAKES in life are not really mistakes, but are challenges in life. The phrase, "MAJOR MAJOR" then became a popular quotation and it spreads as wildfire throughout the world via the Internet and the mass media.



MISS PHILIPPINES HAS THE SAME VIEWPOINT AS THE GREAT INVENTOR THOMAS EDISON!

Thomas Edison was once approached  by his two discouraged  assistants  who told him, "We have just completed our 700th experiment and we  still do not have an answer. We have failed. "No, my friends," said Edison. "You have not failed. It's just that we know more about this subject  than anyone else alive. And we are closer to finding the answer because now we know 700 things not to do." Edison further said, "Do not call it a mistake; call it education." 

What a wonderful perspective! We do not know how many attempts (or mistakes) Edison took before he finally achieved success.  Some said  10,000 mistakes, but we all know that eventually, he and  his colleagues did see the light. Literally!

Sometimes mistakes are not really mistakes. They are just part of the growth process. Whether you are an inventor, a beauty queen, a student, an ordinary employee, a minister, or a business executive, you must  adopt the same principle and perception that guided Edison in his  laboratory work: Learn from your mistakes and keep going!

WHAT DO YOU MEAN, MISTAKE?

First, let's define what is a mistake. What is a mistake? A decision, action, event is considered a mistake when it does not contribute, conform, lead to a certain belief, goal, purpose, or mission. Mistake is also called an error, fault, or failure. There are at least 3 different kinds or degrees of mistakes: low-risk mistake, high-risk mistake, and mistake-that-you-can-make-only-once. I am talking here of the mistakes that we normally commit in our everyday lives in our jobs, in our career, and in our Christian overcoming.

Mistakes also depend on the time and location of the decision or action. For example, it is not a mistake to sleep at home, especially during night time. But sleeping become a mistake if done during worship services, or at any meeting, lecture, or conference.

HOW DID WE ACQUIRE THE NEGATIVE FEAR OF MISTAKES? The CONFUSED KNOWLEDGE AND NEGATIVE PERCEPTION ABOUT MISTAKES LEADS TO MORE MISTAKES!

This negative outlook was developed during the years of emotional and psychological problems we were exposed to. Schools set us up from the beginning to hate failure. Success in the form of good grades was our ticket to graduation and a good college. Our parents certainly never praised our flops. And most probably, every boss we ever had lacked the understanding and vision to see the progress in failures. So the world we grew up honed us to believe that success is to be desired and failure to be despised. We were deceived in this belief.

We then try to avoid mistakes, hide them, and sometimes we even tell a lie to cover those mistakes. Our perspective to mistakes then became negative. Now, almost all people shy away from mistakes. Fear of failure or mistakes now paralyses people. And because people are easily and irritated and angered with mistakes, they have that natural reaction to punish or to look down on people making mistakes.

"EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES." YET, ALMOST EVERYONE CONDEMN AND IS EASILY ANGERED BY MISTAKES!

Yet, everyone believe that "everybody makes mistakes." But when someone makes a mistake, even an honest or innocent mistake, people, especially those in the higher authorities, will immediately condemn and look down on the doer of mistake. This is just the natural way, or how the  "human nature" reacts. Thus, almost everybody covers and lies about their mistakes, making those mistakes remain unsolved, and therefore, are bound to happen again!

All of us make mistakes, whether knowingly or unknowingly. Depending on our  personal perception of mistakes, they can become barriers to our enjoyment and success in life, or it can also become stepping stones to our success and joy.

WE HAVE TO CHANGE OUR OUTLOOK AND PERCEPTION OF HUMAN MISTAKES!

We must a healthy allowance for mistakes, necessary mistakes. The freedom of choice that God gave man means that man is surely bound to make mistakes. This means that we should look into and learn from our every thought, intentions, decisions, words, and actions. This includes looking into the details of both our life successes and failures. If we celebrate our success, then we should do the same to our mistakes.

What? What did you say, Mr. Columna?

Yes, we have to look at our mistakes in a positive outlook, and to emphasize this new outlook, we say, CELEBRATE YOUR MISTAKES! This article will give you a fresh perspective on how to deal with our human mistakes, that may even include the trials that we encounter in our Christian life. And most importantly why we should scrutinize those mistakes and allow those mistakes to encourage us instead of discouraging us.

THE THREE LEVELS OF MISTAKES

Before we confront mistakes, we must first know what kind of possible mistakes we are capable of doing.  To better face mistakes in life, we must categorize mistakes according to their level of risks. Only the first two levels of mistakes should we confront. The third one should never be attempted.

1.  LOW-RISK (CREATIVE) MISTAKES.  These are the mistakes you can afford to make as often as you want, and it doesn't endanger anyone. Examples: pressing the wrong keys of a computer or a piano. This will teach you the right keys from the wrong keys, or even stir your creativity. These mistakes are not really mistakes. They are just part of the growth and educational process.

2.  MEDIUM-RISK MISTAKES. These involves a certain degree of risk. These also needs a certain degree of courage on your part.  Example: starting your own business. If you make mistakes in your decision or investment, you can lose your financial stability. But if you don't make a mistake, the reward is great.

3.  HIGH-RISK MISTAKES.  These are the mistakes that involve life and death situations, or that will wreck havoc and destruction that cannot be reversed. These are the mistakes that you cannot afford to happen even just once, and should be prevented as much as possible. You should never  attempt to experience this kind of mistake. If you think there is a chance for this mistake to happen, then stop the process immediately. Example: if you are sleepy or drunk, you should never attempt to drive a car.

WHY WE SHOULD CELEBRATE MISTAKES!

So if a mistake is an error, a failure, is it not that we should avoid them in our lives. Then why in the world should we celebrate mistakes? You might ask.

We should celebrate mistakes for its positive challenge in our goals in life. We should celebrate mistakes until we eliminate those mistakes. In celebrating mistakes, we can have the opportunity to catch a potential problem early on, before it jeopardize our life, or our business.

It is now time to overcome this negative fear of failure. We should now learn to celebrate our mistakes.

Is there a biblical verse that support this principle? Yes, go to James 1:2.

  • Count it all joy, my brothers, when you fall into various temptations, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.  (Jas 1:2-3 HNV) 
JOY = CHARA (5479). Cheerfulness, i.e. calm delight. Gladness, to be exceedingly joyful, to rejoice. 

TEMPTATIONS = PEIRASMOS (3986). A putting to proof (by experiment [of good], experience [of evil], solicitation, discipline or provocation); by impl. Adversity.

These trials are either caused by our own mistakes or the mistakes of others. Why should we count it all joy when we fall into failures and mistakes – or trials? Many Christians are hard up understanding how to enjoy or celebrate their failures and mistakes. We should have joy in spite of the pain because during trials or failures, we are given the opportunity to see within ourselves where to improve upon in our righteous character growth and developments. Mistakes learned are opportunities discovered. 
  • Let endurance have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.  (Jas 1:4 HNV) 
PERFECT = TELEIOS (5046). Complete (in various applications of labor, growth, mental and moral character, etc.

Every time we make mistakes, even in our Christian overcoming, it only means that we are lacking in something. It gives us the knowledge that we are to improve on this area or that. Until we become whole and complete – perfect. We should rejoice or celebrate that we are little by little nearing to our ultimate goal – to be like Christ and enter God's family kingdom!

Continued on Part 2: The 7 Effective Techniques To Deal Successfully With Mistakes and Failures in Life 


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